The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[gunslinger_burrito]

I moved to a new city to start a new "way of life" and I'm back to the same old way of life. I want to get out of retail. One of my worst fears in life is that I'll someday be that middle-to-old-aged man who's been working in grocery stores his whole life. I'm grateful to have a decent/nice job that pays me well, has benefits (pretty good ones, actually). It's just that I'm so fucking exhausted when I get home I have no clue where to even start if I want to play my guitar or make art. I recently accepted a promotion, mainly because it involves very little more than what I'm doing already but added an extra raise. More money is nice, but I feel like I'm getting sucked into more of the lifestyle I want to move away from. I'm at the point where my costs outside of work are high enough that I have to more or less maintain the wage I'm making now, which is far from minimum, and still far from starting wage for other jobs.

I can't see how I'm going to get into another line of work, or different lifestyle, and it makes me feel like the life I've always wanted is lost. I don't know what to do.

[D.o.S.]

I mean you kind of just have to work 24/7 at what you want to do + your day gig.

[spacelordmother]

Don't discount all the experience (management I'm assuming from you saying "promotion.") that could be applicable in other fields. I worked in kitchens for years and years, then when I got my design degree it occurred to me that there were lots of important parallels that were still relevant. I'm not saying it's easy, or that it's across the board, but think about it.

[Ugly Nora]

I moved to a new city to start a new "way of life" and I'm back to the same old way of life. I want to get out of retail. One of my worst fears in life is that I'll someday be that middle-to-old-aged man who's been working in grocery stores his whole life. I'm grateful to have a decent/nice job that pays me well, has benefits (pretty good ones, actually). It's just that I'm so fucking exhausted when I get home I have no clue where to even start if I want to play my guitar or make art. I recently accepted a promotion, mainly because it involves very little more than what I'm doing already but added an extra raise. More money is nice, but I feel like I'm getting sucked into more of the lifestyle I want to move away from. I'm at the point where my costs outside of work are high enough that I have to more or less maintain the wage I'm making now, which is far from minimum, and still far from starting wage for other jobs.

I can't see how I'm going to get into another line of work, or different lifestyle, and it makes me feel like the life I've always wanted is lost. I don't know what to do.

What line of work are you looking to get into?

[gunslinger_burrito]

thanks guys,

I mean you kind of just have to work 24/7 at what you want to do + your day gig.

Yeah, I try. Probably not as hard as I could, maybe because like I said, I'm always sooooo tired when I get home from work. I can sit there and practice scales or something. but it's hard to focus on being creative when I'm just trying not to fall asleep.

Don't discount all the experience (management I'm assuming from you saying "promotion.") that could be applicable in other fields. I worked in kitchens for years and years, then when I got my design degree it occurred to me that there were lots of important parallels that were still relevant. I'm not saying it's easy, or that it's across the board, but think about it.

Thanks, I do try and keep that in mind. Edit: I just don't see how working produce in a grocery store is going to a job that uses my talents better.

What line of work are you looking to get into?

Something more creative than putting vegetables on a shelf.

All of the last three or four girls I've dated have looked at my art and said something like, "Oh is that part of your job?" Or, "Why are you working in a grocery store? Your art could easily sell," So I've looked a bit at getting into tattooing, but that's its own can of worms. Once I get my next guitar purchase out of the way, I'm going to go get fucking covered in ink and hope that somewhere along the way someone will want to teach me.

[futuresailors]

My avatar gif doesn't cycle.

[leaves turn]

USPS found the guitar they lost, yay

My avatar gif doesn't cycle.

I see it moving? GIFs are on the rise - all pages should be jam packed with dancing avatars IMO.

[futuresailors]

Just fixed it!
I guess it's because I resized it in the normal image editor? Fuckin technology.

[BitchPudding]

They're are so many gifs I wanna use for my avatar but I cant make any of them fit. Ever.

[Achtane]

I sold some stuff on ebay and used the money that the buyers had just sent to my Paypal account to create shipping labels, just like always.
But apparently the money in my Paypal account hadn't cleared (and won't clear until the items are shipped), so with the first shipping label created, it used money from my bank account instead, sending it into overdraft protection, and with each successive shipping label created I got hit with more and more overdraft fees. What. Why did it even dip into my bank account money?
So this dude messages me on eBay asking what was up with the items not being shipped a day ago, which I assumed was due to the sudden snowstorm, I look around at stuff, see my bank account at -$217 and crack up laughing. I'm so fucked. I was already up against the wall but this is cray.
I'm going to bust my ass and refinish this bass, sell it along with my amp and cab, keep a few pedals and another bass, sell the Electribe. I'm done.

[BitchPudding]

Puppy update: Nina's brother Donut has a clean bill of health after fighting off the Parvo with our assistance. Little guy comes home with me tonight. My little fuzz dog of righteousness!

Achtane dude, holy fuck. Im so sorry to hear about the bank fuck up. I dont know really what to say other than we're here for you and we send love. Hope it all works out man. :hugs:

[D.o.S.]

I sold some stuff on ebay and used the money that the buyers had just sent to my Paypal account to create shipping labels, just like always.
But apparently the money in my Paypal account hadn't cleared (and won't clear until the items are shipped), so with the first shipping label created, it used money from my bank account instead, sending it into overdraft protection, and with each successive shipping label created I got hit with more and more overdraft fees. What. Why did it even dip into my bank account money?
So this dude messages me on eBay asking what was up with the items not being shipped a day ago, which I assumed was due to the sudden snowstorm, I look around at stuff, see my bank account at -$217 and crack up laughing. I'm so fucked. I was already up against the wall but this is cray.
I'm going to bust my ass and refinish this bass, sell it along with my amp and cab, keep a few pedals and another bass, sell the Electribe. I'm done.

Call your bank. Email Paypal. There's really no way you should be left on the hook for this.

[leaves turn]

I'd call in to the bank and see if they'll waive the fees. I worked as a teller a few years back and we did it all the time. It was a local credit union, though.

[D.o.S.]

I deal with a "real bank" and they've been pretty friendly about things like that.

[futuresailors]

That's fucked achy. Paypal are total fuckwads, so I'd try dealing with you bank first. I have the most evil bank in the world (Chase) but they're friendly about everything.