The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[Iommic Pope]

Weddings make for rad parties.

And are a great excuse to get gifts! Is there a wedding registry on Fuzzhugger.com? There should be.

Dude, I'm getting divorced just so I can get remarried if we can get that rolling.

Also, skully, didn't know you and the missus were high school sweethearts. That's how I ended up where I am today, too

On a serious note, not jealous of you guys who have to do the whole dating thing. My wife and I broke up for a year ages ago and I tried to date.
FUCK. THAT. SHIT.

So glad we got back together.

I tend to agree with John, dating is bullshit and there are other ways to get to know people or get your end off. His notion of having girl friends who can set you up is bang on, though. I know that there's the expectation to date because its what you're "supposed to do", but really, that's bullshit. Let things happen organically. Chemistry yo. And anything after that is just a bit of hard work. Like anything else in life.

[leaves turn]

I am SO glad I don't have to date anymore. I am perfectly happy spending all my time focused on one girl: my wife.

[UglyCasanova]

After waking up for the fourth time in an hour after going to bed, I'm fucking pissed off.

First I pulled a Schlatte and woke up from a mild panick attack. I've been on the werge of having one the last couple of weeks, so no surprise there.
My girlfriend likes to have the temperature set too high. I'm sweating and I'm sticky even when I'm laying on top of the sheets naked.
The dogs are shaking whatever imaginary stuff they have stuck to their fur making their cages rattle, and the puppy is bored because she slept all day.
Then the neighbours start fighting and crying.
And now I'm hungry from getting all worked up, but have nothing but frozen bread rolls and will have to stay up for another 20 minutes. FUCK!

[MEC]

I am SO glad I don't have to date anymore. I am perfectly happy spending all my time focused on one girl: my wife.

[wafl]

Its kind of funny because what john was saying is pretty much whats happening right now for me anyways. At least lately, it seems that way with a friend i've had for a few years.
But i have no chemistry with people. I only have like two or three friends as it is.

[John]

Its kind of funny because what john was saying is pretty much whats happening right now for me anyways. At least lately, it seems that way with a friend i've had for a few years.
But i have no chemistry with people. I only have like two or three friends as it is.

My personal chemistry is less along the lines of a carefully concocted formula, and more along the lines of "chimp escapes from animal experimentation room, breaks into lab and drinks/smashes all the test tubes full of untested formula." It seems to work pretty well though. You gotta take chances, let all the bottled up shit out. We always fear that what's inside us is somehow going to bring us shame and rejection, but that's rarely true. Anyone who won't accept us for our true selves is someone who isn't worth keeping company. There are so many other, worthwhile people out there, and you might just inspire them to come out of their cages if you teach by example.

[Schlatte]

After waking up for the fourth time in an hour after going to bed, I'm fucking pissed off.

First I pulled a Schlatte...

Yaaay I always wanted to have a signature move...

[misterstomach]

a mayor emotional event

Dude, I didn't know you were the mayor.

[Schlatte]

a mayor emotional event

Dude, I didn't know you were the mayor.

[Disarm D'arcy]

Shouldn't it say burgermeister? Or is that another beer brand?

[Schlatte]

Apparently it is:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vzKcP3aP6g[/youtube]

[snipelfritz]

Burgermeister Meisterburger!

Apparently it is:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vzKcP3aP6g[/youtube]

That video was so full of what. Are they promoting drinking in public? Was the store clerk supposed to seem like a dick? Is it supposed to be implicit that the customer was an alcoholic? Why didn't he pay? Why didn't the beer immediately begin seeping through the bag?

[gunslinger_burrito]

Yayyyyy..... now it's my turn to have anxiety about dating. In my case it's 90% irrational. I always start to freak out if I text a girl and don't hear back within a couple-few hours.... I'm one of those people And then no matter what she happens to text back, I'll always interpret it in some negative way. It makes me feel like a crazy person because the reaction I have to that kind of thing is WAYYYYYY WORSE than the cause. Like, irrationally, ludicrously, ruin-your-whole-day worse. I think I have trust issues I need to work out too, but I'm not sure how. I've had a fair amount of girls I've dated go and mess around with other dudes, so I'm not sure how to combat the trust-anxiety

I'm starting to think that I need to tell girls I'm seeing that they need to get in touch with me, and not the other way around. So I spent the second half of my work day (opening after closing last night, nonetheless) all wound up over nothing, then spent the drive home screaming my head off in the car to music. I'm going to work out and then smoke some. I think the latter is something I need to pick up again.

Okay that's my rant for the week. Phew.

[Moose]

Gunslinger, I know that feeling man. I've been with my girlfriend for over three years now, but I still get that. Admittedly I'm not as bad as I used to be, but I still get it occasionally.


I've found a way of dealing with it, but it was a real struggle to actually do it. Whenever I get that kind of feeling, I try and think of the situation (whatever it may be) in abstract, involving two other people and not myself and my girlfriend. I try to apply logic to it as if it were someone else's situation and go from there.

It's reeeeeeeally difficult to do to start with, but once you get into a habit of it, it gets easier. And the feeling lessens over time in those events, because you end up subconsciously analyzing it from the third person before you even react. I think. I don't know for certain. I just know it's made things a lot easier, made me less stressed, and allowed me to get on with my day without worrying about it.

I hope that helps, and I'm sorry if it doesn't. Everyone has their own way of dealing with things.




EDIT: Additionally, when it doesn't work I scream my head off to music too Usually Dillinger Escape Plan.

[John]

I've found a way of dealing with it, but it was a real struggle to actually do it. Whenever I get that kind of feeling, I try and think of the situation (whatever it may be) in abstract, involving two other people and not myself and my girlfriend. I try to apply logic to it as if it were someone else's situation and go from there.

This is a good one. Whenever I'm talking to someone who is otherwise sensible, and they're having issues, I say "what would you tell your best friend if they were going through the same thing?" I know they say "advice is like assholes..." but seriously, most sentient people actually have great advice for others which they themselves rarely follow. It stems from the whole "I am different than EVERYONE else" complex which gets more extreme the more truly unique the person actually is. Like "here's some awesome advice, however I can not do the same because it wouldn't apply to me, don't ask me how but I KNOW."