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Part I: iirc, you're pretty young, Inconuucl? I think I remember you saying that you're 23... what I can offer is that although it really, really blows right now, it will get a whole lot better. I went through probably the heaviest breakup of my life right around that age, and despite being a super traumatic time, it was followed by the best years of my life. So if it's any consolation, I'm betting you have a lot of good times to look forward to. But yeah, right now is rill shitty, I bet.

Part II: Re: Deadpool, Ryan Reynolds' schtick was funny for a movie or two about ten years ago. Hard, hard pass.

I too had the worst breakup in my life around that age (22). I spent a whole summer only leaving my room to get groceries from the 24 hour grocery store, and all day I listened to Cold Cave and Converge and felt miserable (and not bc of the music). Granted, afterward I started sucking dick and taking estrogen, so my life path may not be the most relevant, but the general idea sticks. Shit picked up. Break ups have taught me to build myself up on my own actions and merits, and to build networks of support and care outside of romantic and sexual partners. This winter has been rough, but I think about where I was at in years past and it is night and day difference. A year ago I only could have dreamt of being where I am. And people here are all great.

Also, Deadpool. Meh. Terrible CGI?

Absolutely! Things can be so insanely bleak, but often you look back a year later and are shocked by how much life's changed, in great ways.

Yes. I mean there is still the crushing bleakness of a banal and meaningless existence, but I have better friends and better shit going on.

Haha of course--the ennui continuum

the gentrification of the northwest driving out anyone who doesn't have a steady corporate gig or heirloom monei
been feeling it since 2012 really hard
and need to find where I'm headed because taking the scraps and having no future sucks hard
thinking portland [which is gentrifying], norhern cal. [which is expensive] or asheville [which is HOT AS FUCK]
any thoughts or anything?
it's getting really rough to do it

decomposing wrote:the gentrification of the northwest driving out anyone who doesn't have a steady corporate gig or heirloom monei
been feeling it since 2012 really hard
and need to find where I'm headed because taking the scraps and having no future sucks hard
thinking portland [which is gentrifying], norhern cal. [which is expensive] or asheville [which is HOT AS FUCK]
any thoughts or anything?
it's getting really rough to do it

I have been "moving to the northwest" sinc 2009ish, whoops.

Asheville NC? Almost moved there too. If you are feeling the weight of the gentrification of the norwthwest, asheville will be just as bad. It is fucking gorgeous and lovely, but it is also an area of excessive class disparity. I kind of miss visiting there though, I think younger me took those fucking mountains for granted. But srsly, when I was looking at it in 2012, friends could barely afford it anymore, and were ending up further and further on the city limits. And everyone I knew who lived there moved to the pacific northwest...

At least norcal has that harvest money.

Don't move to Austin. It's quickly becoming a playground for the rich as well.

psychic vampire. wrote:

decomposing wrote:the gentrification of the northwest driving out anyone who doesn't have a steady corporate gig or heirloom monei
been feeling it since 2012 really hard
and need to find where I'm headed because taking the scraps and having no future sucks hard
thinking portland [which is gentrifying], norhern cal. [which is expensive] or asheville [which is HOT AS FUCK]
any thoughts or anything?
it's getting really rough to do it

I have been "moving to the northwest" sinc 2009ish, whoops.

Asheville NC? Almost moved there too. If you are feeling the weight of the gentrification of the norwthwest, asheville will be just as bad. It is fucking gorgeous and lovely, but it is also an area of excessive class disparity. I kind of miss visiting there though, I think younger me took those fucking mountains for granted. But srsly, when I was looking at it in 2012, friends could barely afford it anymore, and were ending up further and further on the city limits. And everyone I knew who lived there moved to the pacific northwest...

At least norcal has that harvest money.

yeah I used to work for apple and find no company I want to try and further than that
when I trained there back a few times for various posttions
it was magical
kindf of met steve jobs
and think that might help me into the next?
trying to get a qa black box tester position since I have experience
want to leave
bad

Everyone move to Rome, Ga. It fucking sucks and its cheap as fuck. Perfect breeding ground for artistic expression.

neonblack wrote:Everyone move to Rome, Ga. It fucking sucks and its cheap as fuck. Perfect breeding ground for artistic expression.

known friends who moved there to manage bands and whatnot
I NEED AN ESCAPE PLAN
have a friend in spain who wants to me to come
but with my dog makes the trip more difficult

imJonWain wrote:

Inconuucl wrote:

decomposing wrote:

MEC wrote:

Inconuucl wrote:Where the fuck am I going to live?

This is the only thing you have to figure out now.
Everything else will sort itself out sooner or later.

yeah
and it doesn't stop
ever
sucks
BIG:hug:

I found a friend with a spare room, I'm moving to Boston...I'll be more at peace with myself away from this damn city. Thanks guys, I appreciate it. Now I just need to sell my heavier stuff locally.

Congrats! It's a fun and silly expensive place here to live! Where in the area you moving?

I'm not moving until may at least , I need my PhD first. My brother is there working on his, near Newton I think? I've been so disoriented I can't find shit. He doesn't even know anything yet. My mother loves my ...ex and I have to be careful about telling her because of her super delicate heart condition. More complications! Atleast we've agreed to keep this on the down low for everyone else's sake.

popvulture wrote:Part I: iirc, you're pretty young, Inconuucl? I think I remember you saying that you're 23... what I can offer is that although it really, really blows right now, it will get a whole lot better. I went through probably the heaviest breakup of my life right around that age, and despite being a super traumatic time, it was followed by the best years of my life. So if it's any consolation, I'm betting you have a lot of good times to look forward to. But yeah, right now is rill shitty, I bet.

Part II: Re: Deadpool, Ryan Reynolds' schtick was funny for a movie or two about ten years ago. Hard, hard pass.

My birthday was not too long ago actually, so 24. 5 years of my life with this person, 2 of those married. We were happy, save for the rare discussion and a recent emotional crisis I had in private where I was about to throw everything away --but nothing otherwise, not even a actual fight in all those years. This Friday morning she just turned to me out of nowhere and said "I'm not going to do this anymore, I'm out." You can understand how this kills the man. The entirety of my lifeplans were facefucked out of existence with no warning. I also have to deal with literally EVERYTHING we own...

Gah, I'll stop spilling my guts here, sorry. How do I go about changing my username? Inconuu CL is a name she's well aware of.

PM tom or Pumpkinpieces.

There's a $250us rotosphere on eBay and I am rebuilding a pc.
Which I barely got past my wife as is without, "can I get stupid pedal as well?"

Inconuucl wrote:

imJonWain wrote:

Inconuucl wrote:

decomposing wrote:

MEC wrote:

Inconuucl wrote:Where the fuck am I going to live?

This is the only thing you have to figure out now.
Everything else will sort itself out sooner or later.

yeah
and it doesn't stop
ever
sucks
BIG:hug:

I found a friend with a spare room, I'm moving to Boston...I'll be more at peace with myself away from this damn city. Thanks guys, I appreciate it. Now I just need to sell my heavier stuff locally.

Congrats! It's a fun and silly expensive place here to live! Where in the area you moving?

I'm not moving until may at least , I need my PhD first. My brother is there working on his, near Newton I think? I've been so disoriented I can't find shit. He doesn't even know anything yet. My mother loves my ...ex and I have to be careful about telling her because of her super delicate heart condition. More complications! Atleast we've agreed to keep this on the down low for everyone else's sake.

popvulture wrote:Part I: iirc, you're pretty young, Inconuucl? I think I remember you saying that you're 23... what I can offer is that although it really, really blows right now, it will get a whole lot better. I went through probably the heaviest breakup of my life right around that age, and despite being a super traumatic time, it was followed by the best years of my life. So if it's any consolation, I'm betting you have a lot of good times to look forward to. But yeah, right now is rill shitty, I bet.

Part II: Re: Deadpool, Ryan Reynolds' schtick was funny for a movie or two about ten years ago. Hard, hard pass.

My birthday was not too long ago actually, so 24. 5 years of my life with this person, 2 of those married. We were happy, save for the rare discussion and a recent emotional crisis I had in private where I was about to throw everything away --but nothing otherwise, not even a actual fight in all those years. This Friday morning she just turned to me out of nowhere and said "I'm not going to do this anymore, I'm out." You can understand how this kills the man. The entirety of my lifeplans were facefucked out of existence with no warning. I also have to deal with literally EVERYTHING we own...

Gah, I'll stop spilling my guts here, sorry. How do I go about changing my username? Inconuu CL is a name she's well aware of.

Ughhhhh, I'm sorry man. The out of the blue breakup is always such an epic shock. I guess the one consolation is that it's much better to have her do that now, as opposed to years from now when you're that much more invested. I remember feeling around the time when my big relationship ended (also 5 years) that it took up 20% of my life—such a huge portion. As I mentioned though, it does get better, and the more time you spend on the planet, the less impact those huge events have, simply because you've been through more of them.

Everybody's case is different, but I can tell you one thing... if I'd have stuck with the person I was with back then, I'd be a much more miserable person than I am now. So anyway, I'll stop being old advice guy—feel better, man! Bonus: being a single guy with a PhD couldn't fuckin' hurt...