John wrote:I have never heard of a relationship that was strengthened by marriage. Yes, people can become closer and bonds can become stronger over time, and with commitment, but those things happen on their own, with no binding contract necessary.
I don't think all married people are unhappy, and I don't think that the act itself ruins relationships. It's the desire to get hitched itself, that is the poison.
Agreed. That's the stance I've taken most of my life. A contract creates an obligation, and for me, obligation makes me want to do things less. There's just a little part of me that likes to speak really loudly when I find someone I think is absolutely fantastic, which is really really rare. This last relationship lasted a whopping three and a half months and it was the longest, best thing I've had in like four years. I'm just trying to keep my head up and trying not to feel like finding another person is a lost cause.
