The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[Jakezor]

I've figure that "moody loner with assault rifle" is not a good dating profile line.

[D.o.S.]

Depends on what you're looking to find, doesn't it?

[weed_killer]

Depends on what you're looking to find, doesn't it?

[Chankgeez]

Depends on what you're looking to find, doesn't it?

First you must kidnap heiress?

Then you must brainwash her?

Then you place a submachine gun in her hands?

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hLZstCG-ik[/youtube]

[Disarm D'arcy]

I'd love to complain about dating with you guys, but for some reason nobody will date me.

"Dating" is bullshit. Just make friends with girls (girls who are actually worth being friends with) and tell them you would like to have sex. If they say no, then you still have a friend. If they say yes, well then put on a rubber and/or remember to pull out in time. Congratulations, you are a man.

Being friends with girls, as long as you are honest with them and they are not shitty people, will always pay off. Friends are good to have, and they will inevitably either fuck you or find someone for you to fuck. Just take deep breaths, clear your mind and your balls, and be serene.

But where's the love? And the things like you know, buying a house with a white picket fence on credit and owning a dog and minivan and joint bank account and all this. No but serisouly I don't get the fuck buddy thing. To me it's something emotional and not just plain regular release of endorphins.

[D.o.S.]

Depends on what you're looking to find, doesn't it?

Babe. Zevon subject. 2/2

[gunslinger_burrito]

I'd love to complain about dating with you guys, but for some reason nobody will date me.

"Dating" is bullshit. Just make friends with girls (girls who are actually worth being friends with) and tell them you would like to have sex. If they say no, then you still have a friend. If they say yes, well then put on a rubber and/or remember to pull out in time. Congratulations, you are a man.

Being friends with girls, as long as you are honest with them and they are not shitty people, will always pay off. Friends are good to have, and they will inevitably either fuck you or find someone for you to fuck. Just take deep breaths, clear your mind and your balls, and be serene.

But where's the love? And the things like you know, buying a house with a white picket fence on credit and owning a dog and minivan and joint bank account and all this. No but serisouly I don't get the fuck buddy thing. To me it's something emotional and not just plain regular release of endorphins.

I've never been able to do it either. I don't think it's right or wrong if anyone does. People can do whatever the fuck they want as far as I'm concerned. John is saying something similar to what I did. Just make friends, and if you hit it off with one, then things will go farther. I do think that the only thing that really separates two people from being really good friends and lovers is that lovers have sex. But then again, there are asexual people. So yeah.....

[skullservant]

My wife and I started off as friends, we knew each other for a solid year and a half just as friends before I asked her to prom and if she'd date me. We dated for almost 5 years before I proposed to her, and then were engaged for another 2ish years before we got married. Like everyone has said, don't pressure yourself or feel bad, just make friends and let the friendships turn into what they will. It can be a slow process or it can be a quick one. On the otherhand, my cousin started dating a guy in like Feburary or March of last year and they were married in the Fall.

[John]

I'd love to complain about dating with you guys, but for some reason nobody will date me.

"Dating" is bullshit. Just make friends with girls (girls who are actually worth being friends with) and tell them you would like to have sex. If they say no, then you still have a friend. If they say yes, well then put on a rubber and/or remember to pull out in time. Congratulations, you are a man.

Being friends with girls, as long as you are honest with them and they are not shitty people, will always pay off. Friends are good to have, and they will inevitably either fuck you or find someone for you to fuck. Just take deep breaths, clear your mind and your balls, and be serene.

But where's the love? And the things like you know, buying a house with a white picket fence on credit and owning a dog and minivan and joint bank account and all this. No but serisouly I don't get the fuck buddy thing. To me it's something emotional and not just plain regular release of endorphins.

I've never been able to do it either. I don't think it's right or wrong if anyone does. People can do whatever the fuck they want as far as I'm concerned. John is saying something similar to what I did. Just make friends, and if you hit it off with one, then things will go farther. I do think that the only thing that really separates two people from being really good friends and lovers is that lovers have sex. But then again, there are asexual people. So yeah.....

Yeah I'm not talking about a codified relationship status with a rigid definition. I'm talking about just relating to other people, some of whom you may or may not get physically intimate with. If you are (or learn to be) capable of loving your fellow humans, then "The Love" will happen naturally. You can't make anyone love you more than they are capable of, but you can show them your true self by being open, honest and courageous, and then they can make their own decisions.

It's totally possible to love a sex partner without placing any expectations or FB status upon them. Just treat her like you do your homeys; do you feel any need to own or control your broze? I'd hope not. So treat your sisters like your brothers.

The core skills needed for satisfying relationships involve: abandoning the outdated mode of sexual territorialism (i.e. not being possessive), learning to admit and address your mistakes, relinquishing your defense mechanisms and replacing them with honesty and self-affirmation, and allowing yourself to give without either draining yourself or expecting reward in return.

On the otherhand, my cousin started dating a guy in like Feburary or March of last year and they were married in the Fall.

I'm not being a negative Neddy here but they really set themselves up for an epic failure with that, unless they are extremely, EXTREMELY lucky. The chances of that working out in the long run are pretty slim based on knowing each other for such a short time. Making such a major committment as marriage puts a lot of strain on something so tenuous. It's like making a rope bridge and then trying to drive a Hummer over it. May I ask how long, if at all, they lived together before tying the knot? Also, what are their ages and have they been married or committed before?

[D.o.S.]

Weddings make for rad parties.

[John]

Weddings make for rad parties.

And are a great excuse to get gifts! Is there a wedding registry on Fuzzhugger.com? There should be.

[gunslinger_burrito]

The core skills needed for satisfying relationships involve: abandoning the outdated mode of sexual territorialism (i.e. not being possessive), learning to admit and address your mistakes, relinquishing your defense mechanisms and replacing them with honesty and self-affirmation, and allowing yourself to give without either draining yourself or expecting reward in return.

Word. Especially the "Giving without expecting something in return" part.

[skullservant]

On the otherhand, my cousin started dating a guy in like Feburary or March of last year and they were married in the Fall.

I'm not being a negative Neddy here but they really set themselves up for an epic failure with that, unless they are extremely, EXTREMELY lucky. The chances of that working out in the long run are pretty slim based on knowing each other for such a short time. Making such a major committment as marriage puts a lot of strain on something so tenuous. It's like making a rope bridge and then trying to drive a Hummer over it. May I ask how long, if at all, they lived together before tying the knot? Also, what are their ages and have they been married or committed before?

Oh, don't get me wrong, it completely surprised my entire family when she said they were getting married. Early to mid 20's, both of them, no prior marriages. To give some more context, he's in the military (not that that would help anything). They seem to be doing surprisingly well thus far. Only time will tell but I wish 'em the best.

[Schlatte]

I think I had a mild panic attack today. Which is worrying for me, because I haven't had one in years. It also didn't happen because of stress or a major emotional event or anything... it happened in the middle of the night I just woke up at around 4 in the morning with my heart beating like crazy and me almost crying and not knowing what's happening. If I didn't know better I'd say I had a heart attack or something, but I do know better because it happened before.
There is nothing really eating me away right now, just some minor boggles. I don't know. Maybe a dream caused it? That would be weird...

[Disarm D'arcy]

Dude, I regularly get massive muscle cramps when I'm asleep. They hurt so much they wake me up. But when I'm awake I cannot remember a single thing about the dream that must have been stressful to the point i contracted thigh muscles so much.
I manage my stress ok when I'm awake. I can feel when a panic attack is coming and either spare some time to get the pressure down or I just find the strength to get through and fall apart later for a couple minutes. This is really weird though. Like I remember going through a whole set of exams and falling apart only once I had gotten the results and knew that I'd passed. I guess my mind made me hold on, fearing I might have to attend the make up session I just kept going like I was alright.