The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[D.o.S.]

Yeah I work for some really rad people.

[neonblack]

My neck is killing me.

Why does my body hurt more every year? Why can't I have Benjamin Button disease?

[Achtane]

I used to be a seriously reclusive wreck, but now I wanna be out doing stuff all the time.
So the case now is that whenever there's any downtime or when nobody's up to hang out and I'm staying home, I get all melancholic and super antsy. Seems like the things I would normally have enjoyed doing in the past just feel like distractions.

[MEC]

I used to be a seriously reclusive wreck, but now I wanna be out doing stuff all the time.
So the case now is that whenever there's any downtime or when nobody's up to hang out and I'm staying home, I get all melancholic and super antsy. Seems like the things I would normally have enjoyed doing in the past just feel like distractions.

Sounds like in the grand scheme you're in a better spot now than before though, right?

[skullservant]

Its so hard leaving home when I have an overnight trip for work. I only have about 2-3 overnight stays a month but it just tears me up not being home and around my wife and H. Like I'm afraid I'll miss a big milestone or something. I usually end up passing out and getting pretty decent sleep because I'm not waking up with my wife while we feed H. But the past few trips I haven't been sleeping well either. I've had to keep the tv on for the lights and the sound to make up for them not being there with me.

And little buddy's tummy hasn't been the best since we moved. The doctor told us last night that this is the peak time for reflux, but it's been bad. He only gained 5oz between March and April. He did jump 4-5 pounds from February to March though. It just really showed the doctor that his reflexes are starting to get in the way. They gave us some tips and some new things to try with him though, so I hope for his sake and comfort that they end up working.

I've also had zero time to really do anything outside of work. I've just wanted and needed to spend as much QT with H and my wife as possible, but I want and I need to build. My father in law cleared off a spot in the basement for me to set up my stuff to build.... It's all just staring me in the face and I feel so guilty that I haven't had as much time as before to get what I do have finished up

[Iommic Pope]

Dude, that sucks.
Don't worry too much about reflux and weight.
I had it bad as a kid, I turned out....acceptable.
Plus they stack on weight then slow down, eat everything in sight then eat like birds for months.
Little kids are crazy shits.
All over the goddamn shop.

[skullservant]

i can just tells its been weighing super heavy on my wife. She is usually the one that wakes up first and most often in the middle of the night when he cries and I know she's been exhausted since we moved. H was pretty much sleeping through the night before the move but he has been waking up about 4-5 times a night recently. I know teething isn't helping anything either.

I know the doctor told us last night to not think this way, but I really wouldn't be super shocked if H ended up carrying his reflux with him through childhood. I have really bad reflux problems and my dad does too.

But yeah, we've just been trying to keep him happy through his discomfort. We got him a bouncy chair over the weekend that is his favorite thing in the entire world. The amount of happiness he gets from that thing is unreal.

[Iommic Pope]

If there's a family history, then yeah, keep an eye on it.
Don't get too attached to sleep. THey go through periods where they're all good, then they suck again for no real reason.
Milestones are usually coming up if they can;t sleep all of a sudden. Their rapidly expanding little brains won't let them rest until they've overcome an obstacle.
It's not always a bad sign, but it does wear you down.

Dawe, that is the cuteness.

[skullservant]

Yeah, I think that's been the case with the most recent bout of restlessness. My wife has a milestone tracker/forecaster on her phone that has been increasingly helpful at least for us in realizing that he is just going through a spurt of some kind to give us an explanation/prepare us for it

[Iommic Pope]

That sounds like a cool app, actually.
What's it called?

Also, where is he at for milestones?

[skullservant]

Good question! Let me ask my wife

In terms of weeks, he turned 5 months yesterday. In terms of actual days he will be 5 months on the 24th

[Ancient Astronaught]

Its so hard leaving home when I have an overnight trip for work. I only have about 2-3 overnight stays a month but it just tears me up not being home and around my wife and H. Like I'm afraid I'll miss a big milestone or something. I usually end up passing out and getting pretty decent sleep because I'm not waking up with my wife while we feed H. But the past few trips I haven't been sleeping well either. I've had to keep the tv on for the lights and the sound to make up for them not being there with me.

And little buddy's tummy hasn't been the best since we moved. The doctor told us last night that this is the peak time for reflux, but it's been bad. He only gained 5oz between March and April. He did jump 4-5 pounds from February to March though. It just really showed the doctor that his reflexes are starting to get in the way. They gave us some tips and some new things to try with him though, so I hope for his sake and comfort that they end up working.

I've also had zero time to really do anything outside of work. I've just wanted and needed to spend as much QT with H and my wife as possible, but I want and I need to build. My father in law cleared off a spot in the basement for me to set up my stuff to build.... It's all just staring me in the face and I feel so guilty that I haven't had as much time as before to get what I do have finished up

Your a father, that feeling never goes away. If it does, THEN you should be concerned.

I've known a couple people whose kids had absolutely horrible reflux, some found things that work, others couldn't find anything. Try adding rice cereal to his formula, that works for a lot of babies. Also some babies go through growth spurts and while he might not have gained much march to april, may into june he will most likely gain quite a bit of weight, and even start sleeping better.

You've now come to know the struggle of the married father. I get zero time at home to play music anymore, but I've also got a relationship to fix and a wedding to plan, the both together makes it even worse.

i can just tells its been weighing super heavy on my wife. She is usually the one that wakes up first and most often in the middle of the night when he cries and I know she's been exhausted since we moved. H was pretty much sleeping through the night before the move but he has been waking up about 4-5 times a night recently. I know teething isn't helping anything either.

I know the doctor told us last night to not think this way, but I really wouldn't be super shocked if H ended up carrying his reflux with him through childhood. I have really bad reflux problems and my dad does too.

But yeah, we've just been trying to keep him happy through his discomfort. We got him a bouncy chair over the weekend that is his favorite thing in the entire world. The amount of happiness he gets from that thing is unreal.

I told you before that I was majorly surprised he was sleeping through the night at 4-5 months, hes still a couple months early for the milestone from my experience. Sleep for either of you is gonna suck for at least the first year and he really gets used to sleeping through the night. But also if Chrys is anything like Andrea as much as she's been exhausted from waking up, she wouldn't have it any other way.

Its waaaaaaayyyyyy too early to even start thinking about that, reflux in babies is huge right now. Honestly it seems like a 50/50 split of those who get it and those who don't. Our next door neighbors have twins and one got it and the other didn't, its just that random. Plus alot of them grow out of it by around 1, even if theres a family history so you still have hope my friend!

I miss the bouncy chair phase..... its usually around the same time as the first genuine smile and unsolicited laughter.

[Iommic Pope]

Everything Skip said.

Edit: But also, fuck, where did that 5 months go?!

[skullservant]

It's the best feeling loving something so much. I think that since Hunter has been born that I have gotten a bit of separation anxiety, but I think like you said it comes with the territory.

We tried cereal a handful of times earlier on in his feedings before we switched bottles in an effort to slow him down a bit and the cereal sat really heavily on his stomach and he ended up getting colicky and spitting up chunks of it. But this time around we are going to try oatmeal and see how that fares.

I really wouldn't trade how family busy I am for anything in the world. It's the most rewarding thing ever and I have never ever been happier in my entire life than the past two years that I have been married and the past year overall/5months that Hunter has been outside.

I think part of the sleep thing too is the move, on top of milestones, on top of teething, etc. where we moved is much drier in the air and it's made all 3 of us stuffy messes throughout the night. It's also brick, and the sun faces our bedroom pretty much all day. So all of those seem to be factoring into his sleep. We did get an oscillating fan though, which has helped immensely.

I hope for H's sake that this is the worst of his reflux and that it starts to simmer down. He's just been so miserable lately and it kills me.

I have absolutely no clue where all this time is going. I started my new job 6 months ago, Hunter was born 5 months ago, we moved a month and a half ago. It's ridiculous

Also my wife said that the app is called Wonder Weeks!

[Iommic Pope]

Awesome. Cheers dude.
So he's mastering rolling over and pre-crawling skills at this stage (I'm a little rusty on my milestones prior to one year)?
Those things can keep em up all night as well as give em cramps as their so physically intensive and they're continually building a feedback system between body and brain to get that shit happening.

Fans in summer are life savers. Cool air and white noise generators!